“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself”

Steve Maraboli

In our modern busy lives it is easy to feel selfish about making time to focus on ourselves instead of commitments such as our jobs, loved ones, friends and family. However, we shouldn’t feel selfish for focusing on ourselves, indeed, I strongly believe that to truly show love for others you have to love yourself first, and hence self-love is anything but selfish.

“Where there is love there is life”

Mahatma Gandhi

Throughout my journey to regain my health I’ve learned to deeply appreciated my life. Central to this has been finding a higher level of self-love. I’m not talking about an arrogance of believing I am better than others, but rather learning to accept myself unconditionally, including accepting things about my life where I previously felt regret, disappointment and sadness.

A greater love for myself has given me a greater passion for life. I now want to celebrate the positive things I experience in life and believe that the more we value ourselves, the more we each will see the goodness in others and create a positive environment around us.

“Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do… but how much love we put in that action”

Mother Teresa

Self respect is very important. I believe it essential to our wellbeing and that having respect for yourself leads you to have greater respect for others. From my experience the people who show the least respect for others and appear to be arrogant or “self-centred” often lack self-love. Those quick to blame others for problems, often blame themselves for EVERYTHING!

The more effort we put into loving ourselves and accepting who we are, the more our actions to others will also show love. With greater self-love, we will blame less and offer more help and support.

“I was born with an enormous need for affection, and a terrible need to give it”

Audrey Hepburn

I have no doubt that if you love yourself, you will be happier. When we are happy we are nicer to be around because we give off a positive vibe that others pick up on. Who would you rather spend time with, a happy person or one that is always complaining and miserable?

When we have self-love we find it easier to accept love from others and to show love back. Whilst putting yourself first might sound like a strange way to care about other people, once your own happiness is taken care of you will find it easier and more natural to show love and attention to others. Self-doubt and self-hate actually make us more selfish and often prevent us from being open and supportive of those around us.

“You have to believe in yourself”

Sun Tzu

If you tell yourself you can’t do something, then you are correct. However, if you believe in yourself you have a much greater chance of success and are so much more likely to inspire others too. So, what are you waiting for? Make time to focus on yourself and increase your self-love – those around you will love you more when you do!

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself”

Thich Nhat Hanh

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