Let me get straight to the point… There is no such thing as failure if you learn from it.

In fact, I like to think of mistakes as research because every time we make a mistake we are actually learning one more way that doesn’t work.

“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes”

Think of it as research NOT failure

Sadly I hear stories far too often from people who believe they have ‘failed’, or worse still label themselves a ‘a failure’, because of a small slip up or a backwards step. This is especially true when people trying to improve their health.

They say things like “I was doing so well, but then I had a bar of chocolate”, and they use this as an excuse to give up on the positive changes they were making and revert back to old unhealthy behaviours.

Imagine you are driving in your car and you get a flat tyre, what would you do? Would you get a sharp knife and slash the other three? Would you decide that because of one flat tyre your car was now a ‘write-off’? Would you give up on your car and start looking for a new one?

These suggestions might sound ridiculous, but when it comes to lifestyle change people do similar things all the time, saying things like: “I had a bag of chips. I failed. Healthy eating clearly doesn’t work for me” or “I skipped a training run and watched TV, perhaps I’m not cut out to be a runner after all.”

In the words of the best-selling author, Richard Back…

“What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly”

I always used to find myself asking “Why is this happening TO me?” and looking for things and people to blame when things didn’t go to plan. One of the biggest shifts in my life was when I replaced this questions and instead started asking “Why is this happening FOR me?”

I truly believe there is a lesson in everything and that doing some occasional research is ok. Don’t beat yourself up over it. Just accept it, have the courage to change the things you can and move on.

Note: I want to add that moving on does not mean getting back ‘on the wagon’. When it comes to lasting, sustainable change there is no wagon. Burn the f***ing wagon. You don’t need it and never did. The wagon is about restriction and limitation. You deserve to live a life without limits.

Burn the f***ing wagon. You don’t need it and never did.


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